We have witnessed I dos horseback, on mountain peaks, on the border, on the coast, in the rain, on ranches, on New Year`s Eve, in the desert, in 106 degrees and even one surrounded by Texas Rangers. We have seen bread ties for rings, one wedding reception where everyone got food poisoning, and even one where my husband was locked in the port a potty before the ceremony, cowboys have a sense of humor…..they let him out just in time.
Needless to say, we have experienced many weddings. After nearly twenty five years of marriage, and counseling couples alongside my cowboy pastor husband, I can say without a doubt, These things should switch when you get hitched.
Start becoming one as soon as you say, “I do” (Matt. 19:5). Sounds pretty simple right? Just like this couple in the picture, that my husband married a few years ago, I think it’s pretty symbolic that they rode away in a wagon. That wagon is joined together by a team, a tongue, and lead by a driver.
Switch from being one to becoming a team: That’s you and your spouse. You are no longer one and your life from this point on should reflect you two together. When one pulls drastically one way or the other the team can get off balance, resulting in a wreck!
Sometimes that team runs off because they are afraid. Fear from not being ready for a cue, an outside noise that startled them, or the team might be made up of young horses that can’t take the pressure. They are still learning, after some practice they will have it down.
Fear can look like a job loss, an illness, or someone has distracted you. The experienced team has been through a few wrecks. The panic level has lowered because they have learned that even though the experience is scary, fear will only put them into a bigger bind. If they are patient and work out what is binding them up, or get help, they can escape with little or no damage.
Now imagine that team that works well together. It seems like there’s nothing they can’t accomplish. They compensate when one is tired. They are able to proudly carry passengers, work fields, and get someone out of a bind. They anticipate the others movements, short comings and strengths.
Switch from saying anything to taming the tongue: The tongue of the team is what connects the team together and the team to the wagon. I can’t say enough about how important our words are to each other. I have seen couple literally put each other down to the point of tears. I’m sure you have seen this as well, the tongue is a powerful thing, that’s why the word tells us so much about taming it.
Proverbs 12:18 NIV
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing
The tongue has the ability to build up and make someone feel confident, secure, loved, and respected. The tongue can reassure a husband that you respect his decision to move for a better job opportunity. And the tongue reassures her that she is your bride, you love only her and would do anything for her. The tongue also has the ability to destroy, cause insecurity, tear down every idea and dream the other one may have. Remember this though, the tongue of this wagon is an actual working part. Our words should back up our actions!
If you’d like to read more about “What You Should Switch When You Get Hitched”, please read part 2.
Have you ever noticed the importance of your words? If so, can you give an example of how you’ve used them for good in your marriage. Love hearing from you.
See ya soon….Love God, Love Your Family….and Love People!
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