I so enjoy writing. Somehow it helps me clear my head and it reinforces something that I’m learning. I love that ya’ll allow me to share it with you.
I’ve gotta tell you that I am floored when I receive emails! It helps me connect and peek inside what life is like for you. I hear from readers anywhere from 17 to 70 or even beyond and ya’ll it thrills me!
Today, in my blog post I’d love to hear from you and what you’d like for me to write about. Is there something you’re facing that perhaps I could help, encourage, or just pray with you about?
If there’s more you’d like to know about the ranch, our daily life, or how we do something, please shoot me an email with your suggestions.
What about things at church? I keep most of the individuals out of my writing or I will change the name….ha…ha! Sounds so secretive, but honestly I don’t want to compromise something that might be private. It is a small town ya’ll and I love these folks and since I want them to love me back…I better watch myself.
I do have struggles…I may not list them or rave about them on my blog…but they are real. I would lie if I didn’t feel as though, at times, I am a total loser, at the whole pastor’s wife thing. I sometimes am….. but other times….. I totally kill it and am quite happy with myself…but then I get prideful and have to repent! God knows I like to do the happy dance with wins!!!!
I want to know what you struggle with. I want to know what you triumph in. I’d like to know about what life is like for you. What does your personal time with God look like? How do you grow in your faith?
I also write often about married life. It’s something my husband and I like helping, where we can. We have and continue to learn about marriage everyday. The good days, the boring days, the trying days, and the fun days! We have not been married as long as some of you. We have been married longer than some of you. We will celebrate 30 years at the end of the year. YES!!! We have used what we’ve learned and shared it in a course, Marriage With Grit and in a book, 30 Ways To A Confident Marriage. I’d say we like seeing couple succeed in all God has planned for them and how great marriage really can be. We enjoy speaking together as well and do that from time to time….but we do have other irons in the fire, so it’s depends.
We have much to learn…what are some things you can share with me about marriage and what are some things you’d like to hear about marriage?
Do you like date ideas, ranch struggles, churchy things…Is there anything I could share that would be practical, helpful, or a total failure? I’d love to know.
Most of all I’d like to tell you thank you for hanging out with me and reading.
If you have a minute could you give me a little feedback and some ways I could serve you better. It doesn’t matter if you write me back a book or a sentence. I’m just happy as can be with whatever you can offer.
With that, what’s up cowboy pastor’s wife readers in your world? I honestly would love to hear from you…some of you have become like family to me!! And for that I am truly thankful!!!
….thecowboypastorswife.
So, I love my husband. He is my rock my best friend my other half…we have a wonderful marriage, with trying and testing days, with fun and silly days… we are normal people.
My question is this…. What advice can you give concerning “nagging”? Like, men are wired differently and my love and I were raised differently, so how we each do things can vary widely. But, when does making a request about how things can be done differently become nagging? This is one of our major struggles. I share with him the (in my mind) small things he could do (dishes taken to the sink, clothes put in the hamper, trash put in the trash can…etc), but I seem to be speaking to a foreign entity. He hears, but every time I have to remind him. It’s frustrating, and for him too. I loathe “telling him what to do”, but if I don’t push….
Hellllp! It’s a point of frustration for both of us. I need the help and he doesn’t want to be nagged (& I don’t want to nag him).
Holly, Thanks for the question. Oh…that nagging thing…we can all relate. In fact I was a little nervous to ask Wendel about this subject because I know good and well that I have done this to him in the past. I asked him if I had gotten any better at not doing this. Thank God I got a YES! I asked him what that was like when I’ve done that, or when I do it? He said, it’s like being married to my mother. Gross! Anyways, there is so much to say about this subject that I will be writing about this very soon. Thanks for the idea!! To help out immediately, one of the key things our husbands feel is disrespect…like we don’t admire them. I would find ways to compliment him on things he is currently doing…I’m sure you already do this but find ways to do it more often. When we as women don’t feel loved by our husbands, we also feel unappreciated. I don’t want to make this to lengthy here but I would also add the oh so famous word…expectations. During counseling we often ask couples about common expectations, including roles, chores, and such. It’s amazing the things that we learn about each other. It’s also so much better than learning it in a crash course when we’re heated about what they other one is not doing. Going back to the respect issue..we all honestly like respect…so I would try this, “Honey, do you have a minute?” and make sure it’s not when his football team is about to score a touch down….ha..ha..ha! I wrote a light hearted post about this awhile back…if you’d like to read it, you can find it here..https://www.thecowboypastorswife.com/7-ways-to-know-if-youre-being-a-real-nag/. Hope that helps and there will be more to come. Again, thanks Holly! Hope ya’ll have a fabulous weekend!