We all have them! Or at least a few that we call true friends. You know those ones you call in the middle of the night…”pray for me…I’m scared”. Or ..” can you come get me, I’m on the side of the road with a flat.” Why do so many of my post involve flat tires?!! Ranch living…most likely!
I’ve got to admit, I love making new friends. Just like the ones I just made at a Cowboy Church gathering. They too are pastor wives….not sister wives…just in case someone was wondering. My man is a one woman man! Just in case that was unclear! These pastor wives and I have so much in common. So we have friends who share common interest with us and those who have been long times friends. Perhaps you’ve had some friends since grade school or your kids grew up together.
But along the way I have had to let some friends go. Sometimes we’ve just lost common interest or we might have simply lost touch. I can remember some friends of ours that we’re always putting each other down, don’t know if they’re still married…but we didn’t like the public smackdown, so we moved on. Some other friends of ours were still into the party scene but we only liked to go dance now and then. One friend of mine was a little over the top nosey…wanting to know how much money Wendel made…but she didn’t stop there. She also asked other questions that were just a little much. I had to let her go…..”adios” friend.
When I say that, no need to get bent out of shape. We do outgrow some of our friends. It doesn’t mean that we throw out our manners when we see them. It doesn’t mean we wish bad on them. It simple means that we are going different directions.
So how do you know when you’ve outgrown a friend and when do you know certain friends are pulling you down? Here are some definates for me and for the married couples we hang out with as well.
Here’s Are Some Simple Ways To Know..it’s time for adios!
- Friends that talk badly about your spouse
- Those who never grow up…like you get into your 30’s,40’s and 50’s and they still want to act like they are in college.
- Friends who always complain
- Friends that are all up in your stuff. You know which ones I’m talking about. You may be okay sharing what your husband makes…but you also know when someone is over the top.
- Those who constantly put you down
- Friendships that require you to have a certain amount of money
- Those who put down their own spouse or humiliate them publicly
- Friendships without manners. In other words those who don’t share a mutual respect.
- Friends who lie
- Friends who want your husband. You’ll know what I mean, if you ever had a friend cross the line. Only had one of those..slapping my husband’s butt is not allowed by any of my friends. I don’t care how close we are!
The friends we hang out with help shape us into who we are. Good friends are hard to find and there may be a season where you feel like you don’t have many and that’s okay. No one trying to win a friend contest here. Friends should be for you, cheer for you when you’ve accomplished a goal, cry with you when you feel hopeless, and come get you when you have that flat on the side of the road. You should also be that type of friend in return.
You may have seen some things in this list that made you think about some of the friends you’ve had. Maybe you even see some things, like I have, in the type of friend you’ve been to others. I’m not always a good friend. But ultimately, what I hope for you and for me, is this…..
The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
Prov. 12:2 NIV
Have you ever outgrown a friendship? What was it that made you say “adios”?
Thank you for reading and I would love to hear from you…..thecowboypastorswife
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